* How far in advance should I begin planning my wedding?
It is recommended that you begin planning your wedding at least a year in advance. Not all couples do this, but it is a best way if you want to make your wedding wonderful and almost perfect.
* How far in advance should I send out wedding invitations?
Usually, wedding invitations should be sent out eight weeks prior to the wedding date. This way, you give your guests enough time to plan for your big day and you also get a better idea of how many guests will attend.
* Who should pay for a wedding?
Since it is your wedding, talk with your fiancé about who should pay for what. A lot has changed and now, more often than not, the bride and groom pay for the majority of their wedding on their own. These days the “rules” about who pays for things have become more relaxed but traditionally the groom and his family would pay for:
-The bride’s rings
-The marriage license
-The groomsmen’s gifts
-Accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen
-The bride’s bouquet
-Corsages for mothers and special ladies
-Boutonnieres for men in the wedding party
-Gloves, ties and accessories for the men in the wedding party
-Fee for clergyman or judge who performs the ceremony
-Clothing for the men in the wedding party
-The rehearsal dinner
The bride and her family would pay for:
-The costs of the reception
-The bride’s wedding attire
-Invitations, announcements, thank you notes
-The seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs
-Ceremony costs, except for clergyman’s fee
-Bridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories
-Transportation for bridal party on wedding day from ceremony to reception
-Gratuities for all services
-The bridesmaid’s luncheon
* How can I keep my wedding costs down?
When it comes to paying for a wedding, some people really experience headaches over it. But you can avoid this if you follow some of these suggestions:
– Think of the most important features for your wedding.
– Get the services of a wedding planner: Wedding planners have their own fees but can often get lower rates from vendors because of their connections. The savings you may be able to get could outweigh the fee they’ll charge you. (If not, a wedding planner is often still worth the cost because of the stress they’ll remove from you.)
– Consider using a simple white car — maybe even a borrowed car — instead of a limousine on your wedding day. Check with your local classic cars groups: you may find they’re willing to rent their car to you for a lower price than a limo.
– Shop around for the honeymoon. There are many websites that get you a bundled, discounted deal. If you don’t want to do the booking on you own, talk to friends to find out what travel agent they used. You may be able to get a discount by being a referral.
– Shop around for reception halls. Some reception venues have their own in house catering. Often times, you’ll find these venues don’t cost as much since their food and catering staff are already there.
– Shop wisely for the wedding rings. Keep an eye on jewelry shops. Many of them have special events that include discounts off of your next purchase. Buy one ring, get the discount coupons, and then buy the second ring. (Don’t skip out on the warranty on your rings! It will save you money in the long run.)
– Decorate for your own wedding. If you’re crafty and willing, decorating your own wedding can be fun. It will add a unique touch and give you a sense of pride when guests comment on how beautiful everything is.
The point of your wedding is to join you and the love of your life together forever. Keep that in mind when budgeting. It doesn’t matter how much money you spend, the outcome will be the same. Do whatever is best for the two of you to ensure you both have an amazing day.
We have received awesome feed back from a Photo Booth client. Michele and Zack had us at their reception on September 19th and it was a blast!
“A photo booth is the perfect memory to give your guests from your big day. QC Photo Booth is local, and they will sit down with you and go over everything. The booth isn’t too big or bulky so it can fit pretty much anywhere. All of our guests, from kids to grand parents loved this! The curtain opens in the back so at one time, we had about 10 people in a picture! I’m so happy we went with this instead of purchasing some cliché favor like a coozie or a cup with our names and date on it. We love the USB that has all the pictures on it. Our guests had so much fun….it was competition for the DJ for sure! The dance floor was empty until most people had finished with the photo booth! The attendant was a younger man, dressed nicely, very polite and fun. I felt bad for him working so hard, so by order of the bride, I told him to take a break and get a drink!” -Michele and Zack Sullivan
Thanks for letting us be a part of your big day!
-The Master Entertainment Crew
While planning a wedding can leave one harrowed by “the big day,” there are some strategies both brides and grooms can use to make events go as smoothly as possible. Common sense needs to rule the day no matter what goes wrong; and rest assured, all won’t go exactly as planned. If both brides and grooms are on board with making the wedding day go as smoothly as possible, even the mishaps can be seen as favorite memories in the days and years to come.
In many situations, brides have planned a lot of the wedding. This fact does not mean, however, that the groom can just sit back and watch while the bride works herself into a frenzy by the wedding day.
If you as a groom do not know what to do to help, just ask! Ask your bride for a list of things that you can do to help her. If she says she’ll handle it all herself, it may be time to put in a call to her mother. Those extra brownie points never hurt, anyway. If you are the recipient of a to-do list, just do it! Even if the items don’t seem important to you, complete the list in its entirety, on time.
If we look at the traditional role for the groom in planning a wedding, we’ll see that the groom is usually responsible for planning the honeymoon. If this is the case for you, make sure to confirm every single reservation you have made for the trip.
The day before the wedding, make sure to pack everything you need for the ceremony, reception, and honeymoon. If you don’t know what you need, ask for help. If the bride is too busy, ask a female friend or your own mother. Everything needs to be done before the day of the wedding. If nothing else, it will start you marriage out on the right foot!
Some couples decide to buy each other wedding gifts. If this is you and you plan to give the gift after the wedding, make sure this gift, along with the ring and all honeymoon documents, is packed in a secure place. Write the location down on your hand if you have to, just don’t forget where you put these necessities.
During the rehearsal dinner, make sure you give a toast to your future in-laws. Again, the brownie points! Tell them how wonderful they must be in order to raise such a wonderful daughter, etc. Don’t forget your own parents in the toast either. Be sure to thank them for all they’ve done for you.
On the day of the wedding, be to the church exactly as scheduled. Photographers usually start taking pictures two hours before the ceremony. The photographer will photograph the bride for about 45 minutes and the groom for about 30 minutes. Even if you think you’ll just be sitting around (which may happen), be there on time anyway. Now would be a good time to get in a last game of poker with your buddies before getting married if you find yourself with nothing to do.
Truly, the groom’s responsibilities for the week of the wedding can be summed up in one word: courtesy. Show courtesy to your bride by being available to assist her any way you can. Show courtesy to your family by remembering them in toasts. Show courtesy to your guests by being on your best behavior. Finally, show courtesy to yourself. You will have to live with every decision you make during the week and day of your wedding. Be the kind of person you would want your daughter to marry someday.
This past weekend we provided lighting for Kelsey and Ryan’s wedding in Kelsey’s parent’s backyard. We worked hand in hand with Gina from D’Lux Events to make the perfect night. With over 800 feet of Bistro lights up in their 100’x60′ pole tent and cocktail area outside the tent, and 4 uplights in the food tent we set the perfect romantic glow out on the Westerkamp farm. Such a beautiful event!
Congratulations Kelsey and Ryan!
-Johnathan and the Master Entertainment Crew
On Saturday, I was honored to be a part of Erin (Bohnsack) and Mike Delong’s wedding at the Cedar County Fairgrounds. We had a huge turn out! With seating for 800+, we took 3 different areas to make it possible. We uplit a tent and put 2 speakers in it, my main DJ station was in Floral Hall with 8 uplights, and one more sound system in Matthew Hall where the food and cake were placed along with a good majority of the seating. We also provided the head table backdrop. I had such a fun time with them and we kept the party going until 1 AM.
Congratulations to Mike and Erin Delong!
Why? Well the answer is very simple, because you will kick yourself in the pants everyday if you don’t. When you see you other brides having a beautiful video of their wedding day, you’ll wonder why you didn’t. Video isn’t just a quaint little side gimmick any more. Video is an art and a profession. Of course there are some bad videographers and some inexperienced ones, but I think you have enough common sense to weed those out. Let’s concentrate on the experienced and qualified professionals.
In this day when people are capturing life on video with their cell phones and iPods and every other gadget, why would you let the most important moment of your life just slip by and not get it on quality video? “But I have an excellent photographer and it’s already costing me an arm and a leg.” Well, videography is generally not as expensive as photography. There are also a few very important differences between video and photography. The most obvious one is that they are not the same. The next one is that one DVD is a lot easier to carry around to a friend’s house or send to a relative in some distant state or country than your entire wedding album. Also you can copy your DVD and send it to relatives, where photos you generally don’t get the negatives so you have to go back and have your photographer make you copies for a rather handsome fee. The best reason why video is so very different from photography I have left for last. Can you take a guess as to what it is? I won’t keep you in suspense any longer. The best reason why you really want a video of your wedding day is because when you watch your video, it’s like being there all over again. When your spouse is far away and you miss them, when you want to hear yourselves taking your vows again, or when you want to see yourself walking down the aisle, you can see it as it really happened. Photos only capture a soundless, split second of what happened on your special day. Video captures sound, images, emotion, mood, ambiance, tensions, fears, joys, happiness, sadness; all the emotions of the moment. You don’t need to fill in the blanks with your memory, because there are no blanks.
If a photo is worth a thousand words, than a video must be worth millions of words. I am not saying not to have a photographer at your wedding. I would never be so crazy as to advocate one at the exclusion of another. I believe both photography and videography have a useful and legitimate place in your wedding budget and on your wedding day, but going without video is like going without music at your reception – it’s okay, but it could have been better. Do some shopping around, look at some demo videos, and I’m sure you’ll be convinced that it’s something you really want for the long run, and you’ll get many years of enjoyment out of it. The best part is that as years go by and fashions change, it will be a kick and a hoot to see just how you looked those many years ago. Your kids and grandkids will love it, too. No matter what you decide, good luck and be happy.
During a traditional wedding ceremony, the wedding vow that you confess will be provided to you. All you need to do is repeat after the individual performing the wedding. This wedding vow is usually words taken from Holy Scriptures from a particular bible. If you want a totally traditional wedding, this is the way you want to go with your wedding vow. However, it is becoming more and more acceptable for people to either make changes to the traditional wedding vow or to come up with something completely original. If you choose to create your own wedding vow, there are a few things you want to keep in mind.
Although your wedding vow will be special to you, it is a good idea that you and your mate follow the same theme. While a wedding vow can include whatever words you want, it is a good idea to exercise good judgment. If you are planning a church wedding, talk to the individual performing the wedding to discover what is and what isn’t appropriate for your wedding vow. They may be able to point out some unique scriptures that you can quote from the bible. If the passage is long, it is quite customary to read from it, although you would impress your guests if you were to recite the wedding vow from memory.
So, where can you get ideas for writing your own wedding vow? Just about anywhere you can find sentiments that echo your commitment to your mate. If you search the Internet you will come across websites that feature wedding vow assistance. Obtaining a wedding vow using this method is very simple. All you have to do is answer a few questions and provide a method of contact. The company will then take the information you provide and send you a personalized wedding vow. This may seem somewhat impersonal, but since you provide input the wedding vow is partly your creation.
Do you enjoy poetry? A book of poems is an excellent resource for your wedding vow. You can visit your local library and get ideas for what to say for your wedding vow. There are also plenty of books written on the subject. A discount bookstore should offer such a book at a reasonable cost. A unique solution to writing your wedding vow is to solicit the assistance of someone who writes music. An individual with this background can provide creativity in addition to romantic wording.
Vows are meant to be honest. They are a commitment you’re making to the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with. You know how you feel about your soon to be spouse, sometimes the best thing to do is just write it out. Nothing will be more special or cherished than words right from your heart.
Our August Client of the Month is Adam and Shelby (Slavens) Pelzer! These two rock stars were great fun to work with. We went all in for their wedding. They had rented 3 tents to put on The Outing Club lawn and we had to light them… and boy did we light them. We used our uplights to give a fun pop of color on the top of the tent under the liner. We also lit the dance floor. We provided DJ services between sets for Sin City Orchestra as well as lit the stage so they could be seen!
Upstairs in the Ballroom they served dinner and cake. I got the privilege of hosting the evening. The bridal party has some fun on the entrance. We uplit the backdrop and put a monogram on it as well.
Everything looked amazing and we were greatly honored to serve them on their special day.
Thank you for including us.
-DJ JoCo and the Master Entertainment Crew
Statistics have shown that more people are afraid of public speaking than they are of more common fears, such as dying. When speaking in public, all eyes are on you, nothing you say can be taken back, and at a wedding reception, it’s something many people will remember for a long time going forward.
Many people turn to free speeches found online. Most of the time you’ll find some cheap tips on how to make the perfect speech or how to say it. Or maybe you’ll be lucky enough to find one that is already made and you’ll just have to print it. But these speeches tend to be rather impersonal and very general, and if you’re the best man, you’ll probably just end up boring your friends and family.
When making speeches, the simpler the better. You won’t have to depend on free wedding speeches off the net if you have memories of your friends.
When you are asked to give a wedding speech it is to tell the people something about your friends, the ones getting married- how they were meant for each other and how you wish them happiness for the rest of their lives. You don’t need a factory made, winding speech. All you need are memories and your genuine care for your loved ones.
If you’re still having the jiggly stomach about giving your speech, you can follow these wedding speech tips. They may not be ready made but they’ll surely help.
- Forget the preaching, go on with the memories
Most people give winding speeches because they tend to give “unsought advice.” Leave that to the marriage counselor or the pastor, just give ‘em memories. Most couples appreciate the nostalgia of a few well-chosen memories. Find a funny or touching memory you have of the couple and share it with the room, plus a few well wishes and you’re done.
- Go for short but effective, rather than long and winding
Many of us know that a long speech is very boring; you don’t want to dull the night with your talks of your childhood and your games with your friend. A biography is for a book, one or two memories are for a wedding.
- Write a Poem
You may say that poems are for sissies but that depends on every person’s point of view. A wedding is a very emotional moment and it’s sure that everyone is in the mood for a little emotion and tears. What more to provoke those dams to flow than a few well said lines in the form of a poem?
- Don’t forget to introduce yourself
Let the guests know who you are! Have you been best friends with the bride since kindergarten? Let them know! There will be more feeling in what you have to say if the audience knows how invested you are in the bride and/or groom’s life.
Remember, it’s their special day and they’ve asked you to be a part of it! Anything you say will be welcomed and cherished for years to come. Have fun and enjoy yourself.